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"What makes her a good sub?"

I posed the question to my dear friend. I asked selfishly after he remarked that he has a very good sub. It was partially a self-serving question. 
Please know that this post isn't about looking for someone to say, no you aren't those things. Just fall down this rabbit hole with me, yeah?
I asked the question because I wanted to know... What makes someone good and am I any of those things? It has been quite some time since I've been in a committed, power exchange relationship. Trauma, anxiety, and generally staying away from public gatherings has distanced me more and more from the possibility of ever entering into that kind of relationship again. Despite that, I miss the sense of belonging to another. That collared life. I stop and ask myself, what did you have to offer in the past? What made you desirable as a submissive? Surely, there had to have been a reason why anyone wanted me before. I couldn't answer this question without assuming what dominants-past were thinki…